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Dating Again After A Long Term Relationship? Use These 5 Tips To Bounce Back
It can be scary getting back into dating after a long break. Sometimes, past relationships can leave us with worries about what future relationships might be like. This is especially common if things ended badly, but can also apply even if things ended fairly amicably. Relationships can leave deep wounds — sometimes deeper than we realise. You may feel like you did everything to save the relationship while your partner did nothing. You may even feel like they actively sabotaged things. This can leave you bitter, and wary of showing the same level of trust in someone new. Sometimes, changes in circumstances — or changes in people — can be enough for something that worked previously to stop working a few years down the line. This can be equally hard to deal with, especially if you both feel you did everything you could to save the relationship. It can leave you fearful that exactly the same thing could happen again.
Recognize the importance of healing before moving on. If you are, you may project this bitterness onto the new person or make them feel like you have too much emotional baggage to handle, making successful dating very difficult. Instead, work on forgiving your last partner.
Dating after ending a long-term relationship can be a scary thing. Just the thought of jumping back into the dating pool after being out of the game for so long can stir up emotions and induce anxiety.
What to Do After a Long-Term Relationship Ends
After my first serious relationship ended, I wondered how soon I should reactivate my account on OkCupid, the site where it had started. Some who spent the last months or years of the relationship watching it slowly die may feel ready to date soon, as they grieved the loss as it was happening. Others may take months or years because they need to reestablish who they are individually again and may need time to feel ready to date. Even if it's just one date and nothing more.